For many people, dating advice can be rather confusing. When you search online, there seems to be conflicting viewpoints and answers. 

For example, as a man you may wonder what do girls want? Should you be a nice guy or be an asshole? Should you act hot or cold towards the girl you are interested in? 

Should you be yourself or do you need to act alpha? Should you play hard to get or should you chase her? Should you be a provider or a playboy? So on and so forth.

To men, it all can be so extremely confusing. Every advice seems to contradict one another. 

Here is my take on this topic.

The truth is that almost every single variation of dating advice could 'technically work'. The only difference is the type of relationship dynamics you get and the quality and/or quantity of women you get.

Yes you can chase after a woman for 5 long years and get her after she realizes she has no better options and is done playing the field. Yes you can act alpha and dominant and also get women. Yes you can date your highschool sweetheart for 10 years and end up marrying her. 

Yes you can be a weak beta male and get into a relationship where you are subservient to the woman. Or you can be a playboy who never commits to any woman. You can even be a straight up sugar daddy and pay your way into a relationship.

For better or worse, every single dating advice you hear is part of a dating strategy, and every single dating strategy is part of a dating frame. 

So when you seek for dating advice from anyone, ask yourself this vital question. What dating frame is this person coming from? Because if you listen to that person's dating advice, you are going to get his or her dating results.

And that, my friends, is why there are so many conflicting dating advice online. It all comes from different dating frames. What works for one frame does not necessarily work for another. 

Here is the issue though. Most guys don't even know what is a dating frame. They don't even know it exists. They think dating has a one size fits all solution and everything is either right or wrong, black or white. 

For example, a man could grow up with traditional ideas of how a relationship should be. So any ideas that goes against their preconceived notion of traditional dating is incorrect. 

But that couldn't be further from the truth. A specific dating strategy could be incorrect for a traditional dating frame, but it could be perfect for a playboy's dating frame. 

Your frame is your way of thinking and how you choose to live your life. Every individual chooses their own frame. It could be engineer, doctor, entrepreneur, sex worker, drunkard, unemployed, rebel, so on and so forth.

So today let me talk about a few specific dating frames. King, Queen, Concubine, Servant.

King and Servant applies to men, Queen and Concubine applies to women. 

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King/Servant

Men, let me ask you a question. If you are in a relationship or if you were in one, how does your woman view you?

Did she view you as her king or as her servant?

Now, I don't mean to sound disrespectful nor do I mean to trigger anyone. However, brutal truth is often needed, so bear with me for a moment.

Do you carry yourself as a king or do you act like a servant when you are around your woman?

The truth is many men say they want to be a king, but often times they act like a servant around their woman.

When I was super active as a real estate agent, do you know how many men have told me the special magic words after viewing a property? The words are 'Let me ask my wife'. 

I could clearly see the wife wore the pants and was the decision maker in these relationships. 

That man telling me that he needs to ask his wife is equivalent to a King telling his royal court openly that he needs to consult his queen on the decision they are about to make. It makes the king look weak. 

I can imagine many people disagreeing with me and saying relationships should be 50-50 and the woman's opinion carries equal weight as the man. 

Sure, in a different dating frame. But in the frame of a king, he does not need to consult his queen on his duties. He should be competent enough to make decisions on his own and his queen can just sit back, be in her feminine state and follow his leadership.

In my opinion, in the majority relationships, men act like a servant to their girlfriend or wife. They are all about pleasing the woman and putting her on a pedestal. 

Look, if you are happy in such a queen-servant relationship, then more power to you. But my observation is that more often than not, the woman loses respect and attraction for her man over time in this dynamic and eventually leaves him.

Are there exceptions? Sure. But statistically, divorce rates are going up year by year. Why is that? Because women want to be married to a king, not a servant. King is high value, servant is not. King is high status, servant is not.

Men love women. But women love value. As a man, you have to accept that women and society by and large will not care about you if you do not become a man of value. 

So by adopting the dating frame of a servant, you are basically saying you are lower value than her. And that she is more valuable than you. 

So then the question is, if being a King is better than being a servant, why do so many men decide to act like a servant to their woman in relationships?

First of all, Hollywood has put out so many movies that brainwash men into thinking that acting like a servant and making the woman the prize is the way to win her heart. It is extremely misleading and such movies are clearly written by men or women who have no clue about how female attraction truly works. 

Secondly, being a King is difficult. You need to be constantly focused on building your kingdom, your value and your status. It's a difficult road that not many men are willing to walk. Most men will never be a king in their lifetime even if they wanted to.

Thirdly, women are extremely good at testing men. Let me ask you, do you think a woman would test king or a servant more? That's right, women test the king more. Because a woman wants to see if he is the real deal and is an actual king or he is just faking it. 

It doesn't mean women never test servants, mind you. It just means that if she chooses to be with a servant, she already knows that's the best she can do and has a bit less reason to test for congruence. 

In fact, so few true kings in society exist that often times women have no choice but to choose the best servant they can find, usually one with financial resources. 

Fourthly, majority of men don't even know about dating frame. They think the traditional relationship is the only way to do things. So these guys just end up trying to fix their drowning relationships with either logic or couples therapy.

For example, a man may tell his wife who wants to divorce him that 'we should keep going with our marriage because we have already been together for 11 years'. This is a logical argument. When it comes to attraction, women do not operate on logic, so it will never work as long as her emotions are not working in your favour. 

Also, I think couples therapy is not going to be effective in most cases. Because even therapists will try to do this whole 'it should be 50-50' (which as we learned is not what works) and the whole 'let's talk about feelings' which causes the man to enter more into his feminine. 

And as we have learned in my previous posts, women want to date a man, not a woman. So guys, stop acting so feminine around your woman if you want to keep her attracted to you. Lean into your masculinity and lead the relationship. 

You shouldn't need a therapist to tell you how to run your relationship. And even if you did, don't show her that you are looking for outside advice on how to run your relationship. She just expects you to know how. 

Fifth reason why men don't become kings is that sometimes a man is a King in his career and has a big kingdom. But over time he goes from king to servant in his relationship. Why? Either he is weakened by her beauty or he is afraid to lose access to sex. So slowly but surely he gives away his power to her, which is a big mistake. Many rich men become like this. 

As a man, when you first start dating a woman, things are good. But over time, as she tests your masculine core and you fail each test, you slowly slip from the position of a King into a position of a Servant. It's emasculation by a thousand cuts. 

That's how women are designed. They always test your strength constantly and test whether you are ready to slip and become their Servant. Once you become too weak, she feels unsafe, loses attraction for you and then leaves. 

But then you say to me 'Hold on a second bro. You're saying that women want kings, but when they get a king, they eventually turn him into a servant. This doesn't make any sense bro'.

You ask me why are women like this? And you ask me why are they so backwards in the way they operate? Why can't they be simple creatures and treat the men they date like a king automatically forever?

If a woman was able to turn you from a King into a Servant, it is just a skill issue. It just means you didn't know how to behave correctly and maintain the frame of a King. She poked, prodded and successfully broke your frame.

To be honest with you, I don't know why women were made this way. Ask the man upstairs if and when you get to meet him. I'm just the messenger.

All is not lost though. If you become aware of the tests and pass each one every single time, you can avoid emasculation. You can remain a king. Maybe one day I will write a journal entry about tests women do. Its not time yet, I still need to collect more data.

Being a King is a mentality anyone can adopt. You may not necessarily need to be rich. As the famous saying goes, better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. You can be a King of your little kingdom and build it up slowly.

So let me ask you.

Is buying a girl flowers on a first date putting yourself in position of a king or servant? Servant. Why? Because you don't even know her and you are putting in so much effort and extra money. She hasn't done anything yet to earn your affection.

Is asking your wife or girlfriend for permission for anything putting yourself as a King or Servant? Servant.

Is begging for her to come back when she tries to break up and leave putting you in the position of King or Servant? Servant.

Is being fearful about displeasing your wife or girlfriend the frame of King or Servant? Servant.

Everything in your dating life that you do, ask yourself are you putting yourself in the frame of a servant or a king? That will solve most of your problems. Having a "I don't give a fuck attitude" will serve you much better. As in you genuinely don't care even if she leaves. 

But as a guy maybe you would tell me that you enjoy being of service to your wife or girlfriend and making her happy. Again, you are coming from a different dating frame than me. If 'happy wife happy life' works for you, by all means please continue with it. 

For me though, I'm interested in only being treated as a king by the women I date. And I also only want to teach other men how to adopt the dating frame of a King. There are just too many servants running around and as a result I can see women being unhappy in their relationships. 

Here's how a King actually makes his Queen happy. A King overlooks his kingdom and performs his kingly duties. In doing so, the kingdom flourishes and grows. He becomes wiser, richer, more influential and maintains his good health. 

When the Queen sees this, she feels safe and protected and can stay in her feminine state. That's how it should be. It's not happy wife happy life. It's happy Kingdom, happy King, happy Queen. In that order. 

Ask yourself what happens if a King focuses all his time and attention on serving and making his Queen happy. What happens to his Kingdom? Yes, it starts to fall apart. 

By the way, it's not that you never treat your woman good. A King takes care and rewards of all his people and his Queen and Concubines. If they deserve it. 

Servants however reward their Queen regardless of whether the Queen they serve deserves it or not. So she drains him of all his resources and leaves to search for a King. That's why divorce rates go up year by year my friend.

So men, do you want to be a King or are you fine being a Servant? The choice truly is yours. 

If your relationship and dating life is not good, I highly recommend starting to walk the path of a King. It's difficult and filled with hardships, but more than likely it will be worth it at the end.

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Queen/Concubine

In my post titled 'Pink Vs Blue Lens: Female Vs Male Dating Strategy', I spoke about how women's dating strategy is to filter for the best man she can find and lock him down. This is known as hypergamy a.k.a dating upwards for women.

Basically, she is looking for a King who she can be a Queen to. 

Here is the funny thing though. In today's modern world, guys are the ones trying to lock women down into relationships. It's all backwards from how it is supposed to work. 

Men should be living their kingly lives, on their path and mission, building their kingdom. Then the women seek out these Kings and try to lock them down.

But I see so many men these days being extremely relationship focused and really desperately wanting a girlfriend.

Let me tell you something. Being relationship focused is a feminine trait. That's why such men appear weak and soft to women. 

The feminine is attracted to the masculine which is it's polar opposite. Like a magnet. By being on your masculine purpose and path, you exude natural masculine energy. 

My opinion is that you as a man should leave relationship progression matters to the woman. She was designed to be that way. As a man you just focus on making her feel good when she is with you and focus on your life purpose when she is not with you. 

If she is involved in your life purpose, then get her to assist you. A Queen wants to serve and assist her King.

In fact, I see so many men confess to the woman they are dating and are the first ones to propose a relationship. A lot of men see the proposal of a relationship to be their 'ultimate move'. Their super attack. Their coup de grace.

Can it work? Yeah, I've seen it work for some guys. But are these guys coming into it from the frame of a servant or a king? Since she decides whether to say yes or no, she has the leverage and power. So you tell me whether it's a servant or king frame.

But you say what about marriage proposals? Isnt it customary for the man to propose to the woman? Yeah maybe from a cultural standpoint. But in my opinion, the woman has to be the one to bring up the idea of marriage first. She has to be practically begging him to propose. 

Let me ask you another question. Who are the ones who have concubines, is it Kings or Servants? 

That's right, Kings. Only Kings are capable of having concubines. That's why when women see that a man has many options with women, her biology views him as high status. Or at least that he has the possibility of being a true King. 

Basically, when a woman sees a player, she feels like there must be some value in him if other women are attracted to him. It's social proof given to him by the dating market. 

Let me ask another question. If women value loyalty so much, how can players even exist? The very fact that players do exist proves that loyalty is actually not a prerequisite to gaining female attraction.

You may say 'well, your logic only applies to bad women or sluts who just want to have fun. There are good girls who are not at all like what you describe'. 

Do such unicorns exist? 

Well, I can't individually verify every single one of the 4 billion women on earth, but I can tell you that the majority of women are driven almost entirely by their emotions. Loyalty just doesn't excite women compared to other emotions you can trigger in her.

That is why some women end up becoming concubines. Have you ever heard of women going after married men? Of course. In fact, men in relationships or marriages are often seen as more attractive than if they were single. 

This is because women have a herd mentality. They are followers and follow the herd. And I want to clarify that I am not looking down on them for being this way. I'm just calling it as I see it, it's just how female nature is.

So if 1 woman is interested in a man, then another woman starts to be interested in that same man. The more women a man attracts, the more women a man attracts. That's how it works.

So yeah, so much for loyalty. Unless you plan to commit to a girl, forget about loyalty. Put it in the back burner where it belongs.

If you are a man and not even a single woman is attracted to you, expect to have a very long dry spell before you can find a woman. In fact, there is a lot of work you need to do to get that first woman to be interested in you. After that, things start to get a little easier.

Now, here is my recommended dating strategy for a man. If you are a man and you are dating like how a King dates and have multiple women interested in you, you eventually let them become your concubines. 

From the concubines you have, you have the option of choosing one of them to become your Queen in the long run. This is optional however. You can just keep a rotation of women eternally if that's what you want. 

Again, it is the female's job to lock a King down. You shouldn't need to do her job for her. Your default mindset should be to keep the rotation going until 1 of these women goes above and beyond to earn you. 

That's right, she has to compete with all the other women in your life to become your number 1 woman. Only when a woman puts in real effort to earn you, will she truly value and appreciate you. That which is gained easily is taken for granted.

People will try to gaslight you into thinking that you are a bad person for having a rotation of women. 

But in my opinion, as long as everything is consensual and there is no violence, drug use or illegal activities, there is no issue and people really have no business meddling or commenting on your personal life choices.

Let people hate on you or even be jealous of you. As a man, you must have your own view of life and also the courage to be disliked by others.

Believe me, there is nothing that will make you feel more like a man than having multiple women be obsessed and head over heels in love with you. It is the best feeling in the world. 

Some guys might say to me, 'my wife or girlfriend will kill me if I want to start having a rotation of girls'. Yeah, that's because you already gave your commitment to her. That is the frame you chose. 

If you want to change to a King's frame, you are going to have to be willing to risk losing your woman. If you're too afraid to risk it, then don't even try. If you are happy where you are, there is no reason to. If however your current relationship doesn't work out, you may want to start practicing the King's frame for the next one.

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Become the guy that every woman wants to date and every guy wants to be. 

Become a true King.

Today's generation of men are so weak and lost. However, I feel that in time things could change. I am here to shine a light on the path that few will walk. 

Consider it fate or luck or some combination of both that you stumbled upon this article. Most men will die without ever knowing about these dating concepts. 

But now as fate would have it, you have a chance to change your future. So will you take up the challenge?

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In Chinese:

国王、王后、嫔妃与仆人：约会框架解析

对许多人来说，约会建议可能相当令人困惑。当你在网上搜索时，似乎有相互矛盾的观点和答案。

例如，作为一个男人，你可能会疑惑女孩到底想要什么？你应该做个好人还是做个混蛋？你应该对你感兴趣的女孩表现得热情还是冷淡？

你应该做自己还是需要表现得"阿尔法"？你应该欲擒故纵还是应该追求她？你应该当个供养者还是花花公子？诸如此类。

对男人来说，这一切都可能极其令人困惑。每一条建议似乎都相互矛盾。

以下是我对这个话题的看法。

事实上，几乎每一种约会建议的变化形式都"在技术上可行"。唯一的区别在于你得到的关系动态类型，以及你得到的女性的质量和/或数量。

是的，你可以追求一个女人长达5年，在她意识到自己没有更好的选择并且玩够了之后得到她。是的，你可以表现得阿尔法和主导，也能得到女人。是的，你可以和你的高中甜心约会10年并最终娶她。

是的，你可以是一个软弱的贝塔男，进入一段你对女人卑躬屈膝的关系。或者你可以是一个从不承诺任何女人的花花公子。你甚至可以是一个纯粹的糖爹，花钱进入一段关系。

无论好坏，你听到的每一条约会建议都是一个约会策略的一部分，而每一个约会策略都是一个约会框架的一部分。

所以，当你向任何人寻求约会建议时，问问自己这个关键问题：这个人来自什么样的约会框架？ 因为如果你听从那个人的约会建议，你将会得到他或她的约会结果。

而这，我的朋友们，就是为什么网上有这么多相互矛盾的约会建议。它们都来自不同的约会框架。对一个框架有效的方法，对另一个框架不一定有效。

但问题在于：大多数男人甚至不知道什么是约会框架。他们甚至不知道它的存在。他们认为约会有一个放之四海而皆准的解决方案，一切都是非对即错，非黑即白。

例如，一个男人可能从小就带着关系应该如何的传统观念。因此，任何违背他们传统约会先入之见的想法都是不正确的。

但这与事实相去甚远。一个特定的约会策略对于传统的约会框架可能是错误的，但对于花花公子的约会框架来说可能是完美的。

你的框架是你的思维方式和你选择的生活方式。每个个体都选择自己的框架。可能是工程师、医生、企业家、性工作者、酒鬼、失业者、反叛者，等等。

所以今天，让我谈谈几个特定的约会框架：国王、王后、嫔妃、仆人。

国王和仆人适用于男性，王后和嫔妃适用于女性。

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国王/仆人

男人们，让我问你们一个问题。如果你正处于一段关系中，或者曾经处于一段关系中，你的女人如何看待你？

她是把你视为她的国王，还是她的仆人？

现在，我无意冒犯，也无意激怒任何人。然而，残酷的真相往往是必要的，所以请忍耐片刻。

你是以国王的姿态自持，还是在你女人身边表现得像个仆人？

事实是，许多男人说他们想成为国王，但他们在女人身边时常常表现得像个仆人。

当我还是个非常活跃的房地产经纪人时，你知道有多少男人在看房后对我说过那句神奇的咒语吗？那句话就是："我得问问我老婆。"

我清楚地看到，在这些关系中，妻子是掌权者，是决策者。

那个告诉我他需要询问妻子的男人，等同于一个国王公开告诉他的朝臣，他需要就他们即将做出的决定咨询王后。这使国王显得软弱。

我可以想象很多人会不同意我的观点，并说关系应该是50/50，女人的意见和男人的意见同等重要。

当然，在不同的约会框架里可以这样。但在国王的框架里，他不需要就他的职责咨询王后。他应该足够有能力自己做出决定，而他的王后可以放松下来，保持她的女性状态，追随他的领导。

在我看来，在大多数关系中，男人对他们的女朋友或妻子表现得像个仆人。他们的一切都是为了取悦女人，把她捧上神坛。

听着，如果你在这样的"王后-仆人"关系中感到快乐，那么我祝你一切顺利。但我的观察是，在这种动态中，女人往往会随着时间的推移对她的男人失去尊重和吸引力，并最终离开他。

有例外吗？当然有。但从统计上看，离婚率逐年上升。这是为什么？因为女人想嫁给一个国王，而不是一个仆人。国王是高价值的，仆人不是。国王是高等地位的，仆人不是。

男人爱女人。但女人爱价值。作为一个男人，你必须接受，如果你不成为一个有价值的男人，女性和社会在很大程度上都不会在乎你。

因此，通过采用仆人的约会框架，你基本上是在说你比她价值低。她比你更有价值。

那么，问题来了，如果做国王比做仆人好，为什么这么多男人决定在关系中像仆人一样对待他们的女人？

首先，好莱坞推出了如此多的电影，给男人洗脑，让他们认为像仆人一样行事，让女人成为奖品，是赢得她芳心的方式。这是极具误导性的，这些电影显然是由不了解女性吸引力真正运作方式的男男女女编写的。

其次，成为国王是困难的。你需要不断专注于建立你的王国、你的价值和你的地位。这是一条艰难的道路，没有多少男人愿意走。大多数男人即使想，也永远不会成为他们生命中的国王。

第三，女人非常善于测试男人。让我问你，你认为女人会更频繁地测试国王还是仆人？没错，女人更频繁地测试国王。因为女人想看看他是否货真价实，是否是一个真正的国王，还是他只是假装而已。

请注意，这并不意味着女人从不测试仆人。这只是意味着，如果她选择和一个仆人在一起，她早已知道这是她能做到的最好选择，并且稍微少了一些测试一致性的理由。

事实上，社会上真正的国王如此之少，以至于女人常常别无选择，只能选择她们能找到的最好的仆人，通常是那些有经济资源的人。

第四，大多数男人甚至不知道约会框架。他们认为传统的关系是唯一的方式。所以这些家伙最终只会试图用逻辑或婚姻咨询来挽救他们岌岌可危的关系。

例如，一个男人可能会对他想离婚的妻子说："我们应该继续我们的婚姻，因为我们已经在一起11年了。" 这是一个逻辑论点。当涉及到吸引力时，女人不按逻辑行事，所以只要她的情绪不站在你这边，这就永远不会奏效。

此外，我认为婚姻咨询在大多数情况下不会有效。因为即使是治疗师也会试图做那套"应该是50/50"（正如我们所学，这并不管用）和"让我们谈谈感受"，这会导致男人更多地进入他的女性状态。

正如我们在之前的文章中了解到的，女人想和一个男人约会，而不是一个女人。所以伙计们，如果你想保持她对你的吸引力，就不要再在你的女人身边表现得那么女性化了。倾向你的男子气概，领导这段关系。

你不应该需要一个治疗师来告诉你如何经营你的关系。即使你真的需要，也不要让她看到你在寻求关于如何经营关系的外部建议。她只是期望你知道怎么做。

男人不成为国王的第五个原因是，有时一个男人在他的职业生涯中是个国王，拥有一个庞大的王国。但随着时间的推移，他在关系中从国王变成了仆人。为什么？要么他被她的美貌削弱，要么他害怕失去性的获取权。所以他慢慢地但确定地，将他的权力让给了她，这是一个巨大的错误。很多有钱的男人都变成了这样。

作为一个男人，当你刚开始和一个女人约会时，一切都很好。但随着时间的推移，当她测试你的男性核心而你每次都失败时，你慢慢地从国王的位置滑落到仆人的位置。这是千刀万剐式的去势。

女人就是这样被设计的。她们总是不断地测试你的力量，测试你是否准备好滑倒并成为她们的仆人。一旦你变得太软弱，她会感到不安全，对你失去吸引力，然后离开。

但这时你会对我说："等一下，兄弟。你说女人想要国王，但当她们得到一个国王时，她们最终会把他变成仆人。这说不通啊，兄弟。"

你问我女人为什么会这样？你问我为什么她们的操作方式如此落后？为什么她们不能是简单的生物，自动地永远把她们约会的男人当作国王对待？

如果一个女人能够把你从国王变成仆人，那只是技能问题。这只是意味着你不知道如何正确地行事并维持国王的框架。她戳戳探探，成功地打破了你的框架。

老实说，我不知道女人为什么被造成这样。如果你能见到楼上那位，问问祂吧。我只是个信使。

不过，并非全无希望。如果你意识到这些测试，并且每一次都通过，你就可以避免被去势。你可以保持国王的身份。也许有一天我会写一篇关于女人测试的日记。时机还没到，我还需要收集更多数据。

成为国王是一种任何人都可以采取的心态。你不一定需要富有。正如那句名言所说：宁为花园里的武士，不做战场上的园丁。你可以是你小小王国的国王，并慢慢建设它。

所以让我问你。

第一次约会就给女孩买花，是把自己置于国王还是仆人的位置？仆人。为什么？因为你甚至还不了解她，你就投入了如此多的努力和额外的金钱。她还没有做任何事来赢得你的好感。

向你妻子或女朋友请求任何事情的许可，是把自己置于国王还是仆人的位置？仆人。

当她试图分手离开时，乞求她回来，是把你置于国王还是仆人的位置？仆人。

害怕惹恼你的妻子或女朋友，是国王还是仆人的框架？仆人。

在你约会生活中所做的每一件事，问问自己，你是把自己置于仆人还是国王的框架？这将解决你大部分的问题。拥有一种"我他妈不在乎的态度"对你会更有好处。意思是即使她离开，你也真的不在乎。

但作为一个男人，你可能会告诉我，你乐于为你的妻子或女朋友服务，让她开心。同样，你来自一个与我不同的约会框架。如果"妻子开心，生活舒心"对你有用，请务必继续下去。

然而对我来说，我只对被与我约会的女人当作国王对待感兴趣。而且我也只想教导其他男人如何采用国王的约会框架。有太多仆人四处奔忙，因此我看到女人在她们的关系中不快乐。

以下是一个国王如何真正让他的王后快乐。一个国王俯瞰他的王国，履行他的国王职责。这样做，王国就会繁荣发展，不断壮大。他变得更明智、更富有、更具影响力，并保持良好的健康。

当王后看到这一切时，她感到安全、受到保护，并可以保持她的女性状态。这才应该是正确的样子。不是妻子开心，生活舒心。而是王国兴旺，国王开心，王后开心。按这个顺序。

问问自己，如果一个国王把他所有的时间和注意力都集中在服务和让他的王后开心上。他的王国会怎样？是的，它开始分崩离析。

顺便说一下，这并不是说你永远不要对你的女人好。一个国王照顾并奖赏他所有的人民、他的王后和嫔妃。如果她们值得的话。

然而，仆人会奖赏他们所服务的王后，无论她是否值得。所以她耗尽了他所有的资源，然后离开去寻找一个国王。这就是为什么离婚率逐年上升，我的朋友。

所以男人们，你想成为国王，还是满足于做仆人？选择权真的在你手中。

如果你的关系和约会生活不顺利，我强烈建议你开始走国王之路。这条路充满困难与艰辛，但最终很可能是值得的。

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王后/嫔妃

在我题为《粉红镜片 vs 蓝色镜片：女性与男性的约会策略》的文章中，我谈到女性的约会策略是筛选她能找到的最好的男人并锁定他。这被称为慕强，也就是女性向上择偶。

基本上，她在寻找一个她可以成为其王后的国王。

然而，有趣的是，在当今现代世界，是男人们试图把女人锁定在关系中。这与它应该有的运作方式完全相反。

男人应该过着他们的国王生活，走他们的道路和使命，建设他们的王国。然后女人们寻找这些国王，并试图锁定他们。

但我看到现在有这么多男人极其关注关系，真的非常渴望一个女朋友。

让我告诉你：关注关系是一种女性特质。 这就是为什么这样的男人在女人面前显得软弱和温柔。

女性被其对立极的男性所吸引。就像磁铁一样。通过专注于你的男性目标和道路，你会散发出自然的男性能量。

我的观点是，作为男人，你应该把关系进展的事情留给女人。她生来就是那样的。作为男人，你只需专注于在她和你在一起时让她感觉良好，并在她不在时专注于你的人生目标。

如果她参与了你的人生目标，那就让她协助你。一个王后想要服务和协助她的国王。

事实上，我看到很多男人向他们正在约会的女人表白，并且是第一个提出确立关系的人。很多男人把提出确立关系视为他们的"终极行动"。他们的超级攻击。他们的绝招。

这能行吗？是的，我见过对一些家伙有效。但这些家伙是以仆人还是国王的框架进入这种情况的？既然她决定是说是或否，她就拥有杠杆和权力。所以你来告诉我这是仆人还是国王的框架。

但你说求婚呢？男人向女人求婚不是习俗吗？从文化角度看，也许是。但在我看来，女人必须是首先提出结婚想法的人。她必须实际上是在求他求婚。

让我问你另一个问题。谁拥有嫔妃，是国王还是仆人？

没错，是国王。只有国王才有能力拥有嫔妃。这就是为什么当女人看到一个男人有很多女性选择时，她的生物学将他视为高等地位。或者至少他有成为真正国王的可能性。

基本上，当一个女人看到一个玩家时，她会觉得，如果其他女人被他吸引，那他身上一定有某种价值。这是约会市场给他的社交认证。

让我再问一个问题。如果女人如此看重忠诚，玩家怎么可能存在？玩家存在这一事实本身就证明，忠诚实际上并不是获得女性吸引力的先决条件。

你可能会说："好吧，你的逻辑只适用于坏女人或只想找乐子的荡妇。还有好女孩完全不像你描述的那样。"

这样的"独角兽"存在吗？

嗯，我无法亲自核实地球上40亿女性中的每一个，但我可以告诉你，大多数女性几乎完全由她们的情绪驱动。 忠诚与其他你能在她身上激起的情绪相比，并不会让女人兴奋。

这就是为什么有些女人最终成为了嫔妃。你听说过女人追求已婚男人吗？当然。事实上，处于关系或婚姻中的男人通常比单身时更有吸引力。

这是因为女人有从众心理。她们是追随者，跟随群体。我想澄清，我并不是看不起她们这样。我只是如实描述，这只是女性本性的样子。

所以，如果1个女人对一个男人感兴趣，那么另一个女人也开始对同一个男人感兴趣。一个男人吸引的女人越多，他就能吸引更多的女人。这就是它的运作方式。

所以，没错，忠诚不过如此。除非你计划对一个女孩承诺，否则忘掉忠诚吧。把它放在它应该待的后备位置。

如果你是一个男人，甚至没有一个女人被你吸引，那么在你找到一个女人之前，预计会有一段非常长的空窗期。事实上，你需要做很多工作才能让第一个女人对你感兴趣。之后，事情开始变得容易一点。

现在，以下是我为男性推荐的约会策略。如果你是一个男人，并且你像国王一样约会，有多个女人对你感兴趣，你最终让她们成为你的嫔妃。

从你拥有的嫔妃中，你可以选择其中一个在长期内成为你的王后。然而，这是可选的。如果你愿意，你也可以永远保持一个女性轮换。

再次强调，锁定国王是女性的工作。 你不应该替她做她的工作。你的默认心态应该是保持轮换，直到其中一个女人付出非凡努力来赢得你。

没错，她必须与你生活中的所有其他女性竞争，才能成为你的头号女人。只有当女人付出真正的努力来赢得你时，她才会真正重视和珍惜你。轻易得到的东西不会被珍惜。

人们会试图用煤气灯效应让你觉得，拥有一个女性轮换是一个坏人的表现。

但在我看来，只要一切都是自愿的，没有暴力、吸毒或非法活动，就没有问题，人们真的无权干涉或评论你的个人生活选择。

让人们憎恨你，甚至嫉妒你。作为一个男人，你必须有自己的生活观，也要有被他人讨厌的勇气。

相信我，没有什么比让多个女人为你痴迷、神魂颠倒更让你感觉自己是个男人了。这是世界上最好的感觉。

有些家伙可能会对我说："如果我想要开始拥有一个女性轮换，我的妻子或女朋友会杀了我。" 是的，那是因为你已经对她做出了承诺。那是你选择的框架。

如果你想改变到国王的框架，你必须愿意冒着失去你的女人的风险。如果你太害怕冒险，那就不要尝试。如果你对现状满意，也没有理由改变。然而，如果你目前的关系不顺利，你可能想为下一段关系开始实践国王的框架。

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成为一个每个女人都想约会、每个男人都想成为的人。

成为一个真正的国王。

今天这一代的男人是如此软弱和迷茫。然而，我觉得假以时日，情况可能会改变。我在这里是为少数人会走的那条路点亮一盏灯。

认为是命运、运气或两者的结合让你偶然发现了这篇文章。大多数男人到死都不会知道这些约会概念。

但现在，正如命运安排，你有一个改变未来的机会。那么，你愿意接受挑战吗？