It may come as a surprise to many people, but there is an invisible energy exchange going on constantly between men and women. It happens through the trade of what we call sexual attention versus non-sexual attention.
We can define sexual attention as any form of attention given while performing sexual acts.
Non-sexual attention is all other types of attention including texting, talking face to face, talking on the phone, liking a person's social media post etc.
Can you guess which gender prefers which type of attention?
If you recall in one of my previous posts titled 'Blue VS Pink Lens: Male VS Female Dating Strategies', I have mentioned that women are survival creatures.
Women's need for survival causes them to prioritize non-sexual attention over sexual attention.
Men on the other hand prioritize reproduction. Therefore, men value sexual attention over non-sexual attention.
With the invention of the internet and social media, it has caused a huge shift in how both genders satisfy their need for survival and reproduction respectively.
Nowadays, women use social media to get basically unlimited Non-Sexual attention. Every post, every like, every comment and reaction they get from the public is a form of validation.
By receiving non-sexual attention, it reassures the woman that she is noticed, and if something were to happen to her, someone will be there to help her. Survival.
Men on the other hand rely on porn to satisfy their need for reproduction. The problem is that it's just the illusion of reproduction and not the actual thing. Porn allows the man to feel as if he has access to hundreds of women, when in reality that is not the case at all.
Both social media and porn have basically destroyed male and female attraction dynamics.
Social media causes women to have an inflated sense of their dating value. Even very average girls who are maybe a 6/10 on the beauty scale would feel like they deserve a man who is a 9/10 level of attractiveness due to all the social media attention they can get.
It also makes them feel like they have so many options with men. So if a woman is a 6/10 and she gets attention from a man who is also a 6/10, she won't value it very much.
That's why the men who are at the top get all the women and the rest are left with peanuts.
Porn on the other hand causes men to become more passive and docile. If they can satisfy their sexual urge through a screen in their own home where it is safe and comfortable, there is no need to go out and conquer the world or even try to meet women or develop any social skills.
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The Inequality
One of the reasons why I am not a fan of marriage is that the institution of marriage creates a situation whereby the woman receives constant unlimited Non-Sexual attention from her husband every single day.
Why is this a bad thing?
When a woman receives too much Non-Sexual attention from a man, the value of his non-sexual attention drops. Think of it like the diamond market. The value of diamonds are so high only because the supply of it is heavily controlled.
As a man, you need to control the supply of the non-sexual attention you give to a woman. So that when you do give her attention, she values it.
Here is a law I want you to remember. I call it the 'Law of Inverse Attention'. Basically, this law states that when non-sexual attention is high, sexual attention will be low. When non-sexual attention is low, sexual attention will be high. They are inversely related.
As a man or woman, have you ever been away from your partner for a few weeks? Let's say you didn't text or call each other very much during those weeks apart. What happens when you two meet again?
You suddenly feel excited to see each other and it feels like there is a spark again. The sex becomes exciting again. As the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
But most men don't understand the Law of Inverse Attention. They devalue their non-sexual attention by giving it freely and easily to their woman.
You can see this in how most men handle their relationships. They text their woman constantly.
They make sure to prioritize the woman in the relationship. To give constant non stop attention whenever she demands it from him.
This is not just theory. I have seen real world examples of this happening.
The other time I met a 25 year old Malay woman. She told me her boyfriend who is 40+ years old complains and calls her when she doesn't text him back immediately.
I thought to myself, this dude has no idea what he is doing. Not only is he showing emotional weakness by being so needy, the constant attention he gives her will cause the relationship to eventually fall apart as she loses attraction for him over time.
It makes sense that this 40+ year old man has already been divorced once. The unfortunate thing is that he still hasn't learned what he did wrong. This is why this blog of mine exists. I am so tired of seeing people suffering in pain due to ignorance.
One of my exes I used to date, after she started staying with me and my family during COVID lockdown, things got so much worse. She would throw tantrums, make life a living hell and take all my peace away.
Why? Because we were locked up 24/7 in the house together where I had to give her non-sexual attention all the time. As a result, the sex also dried up.
Right now as a man, you might be thinking 'oh my God I would miss her so much if I stop texting her every day' or 'if I stop constantly communicating with her and keeping a constant watch on her, maybe she will run off with another guy and cheat on me'.
First of all, if she is seeking non-sexual attention from another man, it means she has fallen out of love with you and is no longer sexually attracted to you. Because if you are doing things correctly, she will want no other man but you.
Keeping a strict watch and control over her is like trying to put a band-aid over a gunshot wound. It doesn't solve the root issue.
Secondly, if she did go for another man, just learn from what you did wrong and let her go. Use your learnings to do things correctly in the next relationship.
Thirdly, you need to stop being so emotionally needy. As a masculine man, you are supposed to be an unshakeable rock. She is the one that is allowed to be emotionally needy because that's feminine nature. The feminine clings onto the strong immovable masculine for safety, stability and security.
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Is There a Solution?
Everything you should do with a woman is counterintuitive to your default male logic. Your male logic tells you that the more time and attention you give to a woman, the more she will love you and give you sex in return.
This couldn't be further from the truth.
So then you say to me, isn't it impossible to avoid this kind of situation? After all, the natural progression of a relationship is to eventually move in and stay together.
Yes that's true. However by being aware of the Law of Inverse Attention, there are perhaps some things you can do to better manage your relationship.
Maybe you can sleep in separate bedrooms if you are not having sex. In fact, having 2 different homes to stay in would not be a bad idea if you could afford it.
You need to find some way to spend time apart. Get creative. Have your own separate social lives and hobbies.
But then you ask how about when raising children? It would be impossible since both parents need to be around.
That's true. Unfortunately for now I don't have a perfect answer for this kind of situation because I haven't ever been married or have kids.
But at least by understanding this law, you will be aware you need to monitor it. You have to think of your own way to manage the amount of non-sexual attention you give your wife.
Why do you think sexless marriages are so common?
Also, if a woman is behaving badly or throwing tantrums, as a man you might want to gauge if you have been giving too much non-sexual attention to her. If yes, consider withdrawing attention for a while to see if the situation improves.
If you decide to give her more attention when she is behaving badly, realize that you are actually rewarding bad behaviour. Which means that in the future, she will act badly again if she wants to gain your attention. Just putting it out there for you to consider.
Even getting angry and raising your voice at a woman is a form of attention by the way. It rarely if ever makes the situation better.
Basically, in the same way women withdraw sex from men to gain leverage in the relationship, you as a man need to be able to withdraw non-sexual attention to gain your leverage. Or at least equalise the playing field.
Leverage? Shouldn't relationships be built on trust and love? You are reading the wrong blog if that's what you believe. I'm teaching what works, not Hollywood romance. As a man, your woman will love you, trust you and feel safe with you if you do things correctly.
There is a minority of women whereby even if you act incorrectly and give her tons of attention, she will still be sweet, feminine and remain sexually generous.
I don't know how many of them exist, but I would say it's probably less than 5% of all women. Either way as a man, it is your responsibility to learn dating as a skill so you can navigate your relationships well.
It's not like all men will get a woman who is in the 5% category. So best to figure this out and prepare for the fact that most of the time you will be dealing with a woman from the 95%.
So in a nutshell, marriage is a structure created by society that ensures that women get too much non-sexual attention and men get too little sexual attention.
And people wonder why divorce rates are increasing year by year.
Marriage is said to promote equality of men and women, when in reality it just creates more inequality. This is just the brutal honest truth.
Think about it. In marriage, a man can only get sexual attention from his wife. She basically holds all the leverage because by getting married, the man is giving her the only key to satisfying his sexual needs.
But the woman can get non-sexual attention not only from her husband, but from her friends, family, social media, other men, etc.
Because of the different way our biological needs are met, men and women can never be truly equal despite how much societal narrative wants to tell you it's possible. It's all lies. Don't waste time believing it.
In theory, if marriage were truly equal, then the woman would be restricted in such a way that the only non-sexual attention she gets is from her husband and no one else.
That's why in some cultures, women are encouraged to dress modestly or cover up.
I've seen a video online before where a woman said on a podcast that she voluntarily deleted her Instagram after she became exclusive with a man in a relationship. This was pretty amazing to see and I salute her for respecting her man in such a way.
Realistically though, with the way modern society is designed, most women will never be restricted to only receiving non-sexual attention from her husband. Therefore marriage is not truly equal, even though on paper it appears that way. That is fact and reality.
Wake up guys. Marriage totally favours women. I'm not saying don't get married, but at least if you choose to get married, you know what you're truly signing up for. So go in with eyes wide open and don't be ignorant.
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The Exception to the Law
I'm going to be my own Devil's Advocate and talk about couples I seen who do not follow this law.
There is a couple on YouTube known as Jack and Meghan. They mostly spend time together and are extremely happy in their relationship.
Which means he does give her constant non-sexual attention and she is still head over heels on love with him. Why?
My understanding is that he is able to effectively move her emotions by making her laugh and feel a variety of emotions all the time.
For a man to be able to move a woman's emotions easily is a very masculine trait. That's why despite the constant non-sexual attention he gives her, this couple still works very well.
But this is a very rare and specific case. In most cases, most guys are not this skilled at moving female emotions at will all the time. In fact most guys make women feel bored with them.
So my advice is to err on the side of caution, limit the supply of your attention, because chances are you are not naturally as good as Jack at moving his female partner's emotions all the time.
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The Friendzone
Since we are on the topic, do you guys actually realise what a friendzone is? When a woman friendzones a man, it is basically her way of securing unlimited and constant non-sexual attention from that man while not giving any sex in return.
So if you are a man and a woman you are interested in says 'lets just be friends', the correct reply would be 'no thanks, I have enough friends'. Don't waste your valuable time and attention on such a woman, move on to the next one.
I've had women try to friendzone me before. It just basically means I wasn't showing enough masculine traits for her to be sexually attracted to me. So I'm speaking from experience here. So yes, I did reject the offer to be friends and moved on from them very quickly.
She might not have intended to insult you with the friends offer, but that's basically what it actually is when you understand male to female dating dynamics. Women don't even understand why they do certain things or how their own attraction triggers work.
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The Sex Zone
How about the reverse situation? When a man refuses to give a relationship to a woman and is only willing to have sex with her from time to time, the man has essentially sex zoned her.
Women often refer to these men as 'players' that she cannot lock down.
Which means she gives him sexual attention, while he gives her little to no non-sexual attention.
I think many of you guys have heard of the friendzone before and not the sex zone. Friendzone is much more common, to be fair.
It's not exactly the same as fuckbuddy or friends with benefits either. Because in a pure fuckbuddy situation, neither party is looking for a relationship. Although usually someone eventually gets emotionally attached.
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A Divine Creation
I strongly believe that men have the capacity to figure women out. Though not many have done so in reality.
In general, women aren't going to be able to explain their own attraction triggers so clearly, concisely and logically like I can. So don't rely on women to tell you how they work.
God gave women the physical beauty to be able to attract men. Inversely, God also gave men masculine intellect and character to be able to figure out and attract women.
That's what I truly believe. It's just that ignorance and false societal narratives have kept men from understanding how to be attractive to women.
But that can all change very soon. The code to unlock the secrets of female nature will be revealed fully in time. And it will be delivered through men such as myself. One post at a time. One idea at a time. One abstract concept at a time. Until the full picture in all its glory is unveiled.
So far I have only had a small glimpse of the code within female nature that God created, and I am already in awe of how beautifully complex it is. Amazing. God is beyond genius. It is both art and science combined into one.
I'm not even religious, but seeing such code has made me a believer. It's a level of genius that points to something or someone beyond human comprehension.
Most men will never appreciate female nature like I do. I see it for what it truly is, rather than what society believes it to be. I see men constantly complaining about how complicated women are. Which saddens me greatly. Trust me, it doesn't have to be that way.
Perhaps one day, you too will see the beauty I see.
In Chinese:
ๆณจๆๅๅๆฏๅฎๅพ
ๅฏน่ฎธๅคไบบๆฅ่ฏดๅฏ่ฝไผๆๅฐๆ่ฎถ๏ผ็ทๅฅณไน้ดๅ ถๅฎไธ็ดๅจ่ฟ่กไธ็งๆ ๅฝข็่ฝ้ไบคๆขใ่ฟ็งไบคๆขๅ็ๅจๆไปฌๆ่ฐ็ๆงๆณจๆๅไธ้ๆงๆณจๆๅไน้ดใ
ๆงๆณจๆๅๅฏไปฅๅฎไนไธบๅจๅ็ๆง่กไธบๆถ็ปไบ็ไปปไฝๅฝขๅผ็ๅ ณๆณจใ
้ๆงๆณจๆๅๅๆฏๆๆๅ ถไป็ฑปๅ็ๅ ณๆณจ๏ผๅ ๆฌๅไฟกๆฏใ้ขๅฏน้ขไบค่ฐใๆ็ต่ฏใ็น่ต็คพไบคๅชไฝๅธๅญ็ญ็ญใ
ไฝ ่ฝ็ๅฐๅช็งๆงๅซๆดๅๆฌขๅช็ง็ฑปๅ็ๆณจๆๅๅ๏ผ
ๅฆๆไฝ ่ฟ่ฎฐๅพๆไนๅไธ็ฏ้ขไธบใ็ฒ็บข้็ vs ่่ฒ้็๏ผ็ทๅฅณ็บฆไผ็ญ็ฅใ็ๆ็ซ ๏ผๆๆพๆๅฐๅฅณๆงๆฏ็ๅญๅ็็ฉใ
ๅฅณๆง็็ๅญ้ๆฑๅฏผ่ดๅฅนไปฌไผๅ ่่้ๆงๆณจๆๅ่้ๆงๆณจๆๅใ
่็ทๆงๅไผๅ ่่็น่กใๅ ๆญค๏ผ็ทๆงๆด็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ่้้ๆงๆณจๆๅใ
ไบ่็ฝๅ็คพไบคๅชไฝ็ๅๆ๏ผๅฏผ่ดไธคๆงๆปก่ถณๅ่ช็ๅญไธ็น่ก้ๆฑ็ๆนๅผๅ็ไบๅทจๅคง่ฝฌๅใ
ๅฆไป๏ผๅฅณๆงๅฉ็จ็คพไบคๅชไฝ่ทๅๅ ไนๆฏๆ ้็้ๆงๆณจๆๅใๆฏไธๆกๅธๅญใๆฏไธไธช็น่ตใๆฏไธๆก่ฏ่ฎบๅๅ ฌไผ็ๅๅบ้ฝๆฏไธ็ง่ฎคๅฏๅฝขๅผใ
้่ฟๆฅๆถ้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผๅฅณๆง็กฎไฟก่ชๅทฑ่ขซๆณจๆๅฐไบ๏ผๅฆๆๅฅนๅ็ไปไนไบ๏ผไผๆไบบๅจ้ฃ้ๅธฎๅฉๅฅนใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏ็ๅญใ
ๅฆไธๆน้ข๏ผ็ทๆงไพ่ต่ฒๆ ๅ ๅฎนๆฅๆปก่ถณไปไปฌ็็น่ก้ๆฑใ้ฎ้ขๅจไบ๏ผ่ฟๅชๆฏ็น่ก็ๅนป่ง๏ผ่้็ๅฎ็ไธ่ฅฟใ่ฒๆ ่ฎฉ็ทๆงๆ่งไป่ฝๆฅ่งฆๅฐๆฐ็พๅๅฅณๆง๏ผ่็ฐๅฎๅฎๅ จไธๆฏ่ฟๆ ทใ
็คพไบคๅชไฝๅ่ฒๆ ๅ ๅฎนๅบๆฌไธๆงๆฏไบ็ทๅฅณไน้ด็ๅธๅผๅๅจๆใ
็คพไบคๅชไฝๅฏผ่ดๅฅณๆงๅฏน่ชๅทฑ็็บฆไผไปทๅผไบง็ inflated ่ฎค็ฅใๅณไฝฟๆฏๅค่ฒๅฏ่ฝๅชๆ 6/10 ็ๆฎ้ๅฅณๅญฉ๏ผ็ฑไบ่ฝไป็คพไบคๅชไฝ่ทๅพๅคง้ๅ ณๆณจ๏ผไนไผ่งๅพ่ชๅทฑ้ ๅพไธ 9/10 ๅธๅผๅ็็ทไบบใ
่ฟไน่ฎฉๅฅนไปฌ่งๅพ่ชๅทฑๅจ็ทไบบ้ขๅๆๅพๅค้ๆฉใๆไปฅๅฆๆไธไธช 6/10 ็ๅฅณไบบไปไธไธชๅๆ ทๆฏ 6/10 ็็ทไบบ้ฃ้ๅพๅฐๅ ณๆณจ๏ผๅฅนๅนถไธไผๅพ็้ใ
่ฟๅฐฑๆฏไธบไปไน้กถๅฑ็็ทไบบ่ฝๅพๅฐๆๆๅฅณไบบ๏ผ่ๅ ถไปไบบๅช่ฝๆกๅฉ้ฅญใ
ๅฆไธๆน้ข๏ผ่ฒๆ ่ฎฉ็ทๆงๅๅพๆดๅ ่ขซๅจๅๆธฉ้กบใๅฆๆไปไปฌ่ฝๅจๅฎถไธญ่้ๅฎๅ จ็็ฏๅข้้่ฟๅฑๅนๆปก่ถณๆงๅฒๅจ๏ผๅฐฑๆฒกๆๅฟ ่ฆๅบๅปๅพๆไธ็๏ผ็่ณๆฒกๆๅฟ ่ฆๅฐ่ฏ่ฎค่ฏๅฅณไบบๆๅๅฑไปปไฝ็คพไบคๆ่ฝใ
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ไธๅนณ็ญ
ๆไธๅคช็ๅฅฝๅฉๅงป็ไธไธชๅๅ ๆฏ๏ผๅฉๅงปๅถๅบฆๅ้ ไบไธ็งๅฑ้ข๏ผ่ฎฉๅฅณไบบๆฏๅคฉ้ฝ่ฝไปไธๅคซ้ฃ้่ทๅพๆ็ปญใๆ ้็้ๆงๆณจๆๅใ
ไธบไปไน่ฟไธๅฅฝ๏ผ
ๅฝไธไธชๅฅณไบบไปไธไธช็ทไบบ้ฃ้ๅพๅฐๅคชๅค้ๆงๆณจๆๅๆถ๏ผไป็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ็ไปทๅผๅฐฑไผไธ้ใๅฐฑๅ้ป็ณๅธๅบไธๆ ทใ้ป็ณ็ไปทๅผไนๆไปฅๅฆๆญคไน้ซ๏ผๅชๆฏๅ ไธบไพๅบ้่ขซไธฅๆ ผๆงๅถใ
ไฝไธบไธไธช็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ้่ฆๆงๅถไฝ ็ปๅฅณไบบ็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ็ไพๅบ้ใ่ฟๆ ท๏ผๅฝไฝ ็ปๅฅนๅ ณๆณจๆถ๏ผๅฅนๆไผ็ๆใ
่ฟๆฏๆๅธๆไฝ ่ฎฐไฝ็ไธๆกๅฎๅพใๆ็งฐไนไธบ"ๆณจๆๅๅๆฏๅฎๅพ"ใๅบๆฌไธ๏ผ่ฟๆกๅฎๅพๆๅบ๏ผๅฝ้ๆงๆณจๆๅ้ซๆถ๏ผๆงๆณจๆๅๅฐฑไผไฝ๏ผๅฝ้ๆงๆณจๆๅไฝๆถ๏ผๆงๆณจๆๅๅฐฑไผ้ซใๅฎไปฌๆๅๆฏใ
ไฝไธบ็ทไบบๆๅฅณไบบ๏ผไฝ ๆๆฒกๆๅไผดไพฃๅๅผ่ฟๅ ๅจ๏ผๅ่ฎพไฝ ไปฌๅจๅๅผ็้ฃๅ ๅจ้ๅพๅฐๅไฟกๆฏๆๆ็ต่ฏใๅฝไฝ ไปฌๅๆฌก่ง้ขๆถไผๅ็ไปไน๏ผ
ไฝ ไผ็ช็ถๆๅฐ่งๅฐๅฏนๆนๅพๅ ดๅฅ๏ผไปฟไฝ็ซ่ฑ้ๆฐ็น็ใๆง็ฑๅๅๅพไปคไบบๆฟๅจใๆญฃๅฆไฟ่ฏๆ่ฏด๏ผๅฐๅซ่ๆฐๅฉใ
ไฝๅคงๅคๆฐ็ทไบบไธ็่งฃๆณจๆๅๅๆฏๅฎๅพใไปไปฌ้่ฟ้ๆใ่ฝปๆๅฐ็ปไบๅฅณไบบๅ ณๆณจ๏ผ่ดฌไฝไบ่ชๅทฑ็้ๆงๆณจๆๅใ
ไฝ ๅฏไปฅไปๅคงๅคๆฐ็ทไบบๅค็ๅ ณ็ณป็ๆนๅผไธญ็ๅฐ่ฟไธ็นใไปไปฌไธๅๅฐ็ปๅฅณไบบๅไฟกๆฏใ
ไปไปฌ็กฎไฟๆๅฅณไบบๆพๅจๅ ณ็ณปไธญ็ไผๅ ไฝ็ฝฎใๆ ่ฎบไฝๆถๅฅน่ฆๆฑ๏ผไป้ฝ็ปไบๆ็ปญไธๆญ็ๅ ณๆณจใ
่ฟไธไป ไป ๆฏ็่ฎบใๆไบฒ็ผ่ง่ฟ็ฐๅฎไธญๅ็็ไพๅญใ
ๅๆฎตๆถ้ดๆ้ๅฐไธไธช 25 ๅฒ็้ฉฌๆฅๅฅณๆงใๅฅนๅ่ฏๆ๏ผๅฅน 40 ๅคๅฒ็็ทๆๅๅจๅฅนๆฒกๆ็ซๅณๅๅคไฟกๆฏๆถ๏ผไผๆฑๆจใๆ็ต่ฏ็ปๅฅนใ
ๆๅฟๆณ๏ผ่ฟๅฎถไผๆ นๆฌไธ็ฅ้่ชๅทฑๅจๅไปไนใไปไธไป ้่ฟๅฆๆญค needy ่กจ็ฐๅบๆ ๆไธ็่ฝฏๅผฑ๏ผ่ไธไปไธๆญ็ปไบ็ๅ ณๆณจๆ็ปไผๅฏผ่ดๅ ณ็ณป็ ด่ฃ๏ผๅ ไธบ้็ๆถ้ด็ๆจ็งป๏ผๅฅนไผๅฏนไปๅคฑๅปๅธๅผๅใ
่ฟไธช 40 ๅคๅฒ็็ทไบบๅทฒ็ป็ฆป่ฟไธๆฌกๅฉ๏ผ่ฟๅพๅ็ใไธๅนธ็ๆฏ๏ผไปไป็ถๆฒกๆไป่ชๅทฑ็้่ฏฏไธญๅธๅๆ่ฎญใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏๆ็ๅๅฎขๅญๅจ็ๅๅ ใ็ๅฐไบบไปฌๅ ๆ ็ฅ่็่ฆ๏ผๆๆๅฐ้ๅธธๅๅฆใ
ๆไปฅๅ็บฆไผ่ฟ็ไธไธชๅไปป๏ผๅจๆฐๅ ๅฐ้ๆ้ดๅผๅงๅๆๅๆ็ๅฎถไบบไฝๅจไธ่ตทๅ๏ผๆ ๅตๅๅพ้ๅธธ็ณ็ณใๅฅนไผๅ่พๆฐ๏ผๆ็ๆดปๆๅพไธๅข็ณ๏ผๅคบ่ตฐๆๆๆ็ๅนณ้ใ
ไธบไปไน๏ผๅ ไธบๆไปฌ 24/7 ่ขซ้ๅจๅฎถ้๏ผๆไธๅพไธไธ็ด็ปๅฅน้ๆงๆณจๆๅใ็ปๆ๏ผๆง็ฑไนๆฏ็ซญไบใ
็ฐๅจไฝไธบไธไธช็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ๅฏ่ฝไผๆณ"ๅคฉๅช๏ผๅฆๆๆๅๆญขๆฏๅคฉ็ปๅฅนๅไฟกๆฏ๏ผๆไผ้ๅธธๆณๅฅน"ๆ่ "ๅฆๆๆๅๆญขๅๅฅน constantly ๆฒ้๏ผไธๅๆถๅป็ฏ็ๅฅน๏ผไน่ฎธๅฅนไผ่ทๅซ็็ทไบบ่ทๆ๏ผ่ๅๆ"ใ
้ฆๅ ๏ผๅฆๆๅฅนๅจไปๅซ็็ทไบบ้ฃ้ๅฏปๆฑ้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผ่ฟๆๅณ็ๅฅนๅทฒ็ปไธๅ็ฑไฝ ไบ๏ผๅฏนไฝ ไธๅๆๆงๅธๅผๅใๅ ไธบๅฆๆไฝ ๅๅพๅฏน๏ผๅฅน้คไบไฝ ไธไผๆณ่ฆๅ ถไป็ทไบบใ
ไธฅๅฏ็ๆงๅๆงๅถๅฅน๏ผๅฐฑๅ่ฏๅพ็จๅๅฏ่ดด่ฆ็ๆชไผคใๅฎ่งฃๅณไธไบๆ นๆฌ้ฎ้ขใ
ๅ ถๆฌก๏ผๅฆๆๅฅน็็ๅปๆพๅซ็็ทไบบไบ๏ผไปไฝ ๅ้็ๅฐๆนๅธๅๆ่ฎญ๏ผ็ถๅ่ฎฉๅฅน่ตฐใ็จไฝ ๅญฆๅฐ็ไธ่ฅฟๅจไธไธๆฎตๅ ณ็ณปไธญๅๅฏนใ
็ฌฌไธ๏ผไฝ ้่ฆๅๆญขๅฆๆญคๆ ๆไธ็ needyใไฝไธบไธไธชๆ็ทๅญๆฐๆฆ็็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ๅบ่ฏฅๆฏไธๅไธๅฏๅจๆ็็ฃ็ณใๅฅนๆๅฏไปฅๆฏๆ ๆไธ needy ็ไธๆน๏ผๅ ไธบ้ฃๆฏๅฅณๆงๅคฉๆงใๅฅณๆงไพ้ไบๅผบๅคงใไธๅฏๅจๆ็็ทๆงไปฅๅฏปๆฑๅฎๅ จใ็จณๅฎๅไฟๆคใ
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ๆ่งฃๅณๅๆณๅ?
ไฝ ไธๅฅณไบบ็ธๅค็ๆฏไธไปถไบ๏ผ้ฝไธไฝ ็้ป่ฎค็ทๆง้ป่พ็ธๆใไฝ ็็ทๆง้ป่พๅ่ฏไฝ ๏ผไฝ ็ปๅฅณไบบ็ๆถ้ดๅๅ ณๆณจ่ถๅค๏ผๅฅนๅฐฑไผ่ถ็ฑไฝ ๏ผๅนถ็ปไฝ ๆงไฝไธบๅๆฅใ
่ฟไธไบๅฎ็ธๅป็่ฟใ
้ฃไนไฝ ๅฏ่ฝไผๅฏนๆ่ฏด๏ผ้พ้่ฟ็งๆ ๅตๆ ๆณ้ฟๅ ๅ๏ผๆฏ็ซ๏ผๅ ณ็ณป็่ช็ถๅๅฑๆ็ปๆฏๅๅฑ ๅจไธ่ตทใ
ๆฒก้ใ็ถ่๏ผ้่ฟไบ่งฃๆณจๆๅๅๆฏๅฎๅพ๏ผๆ่ฎธไฝ ๅฏไปฅๅไธไบไบๆฅๆดๅฅฝๅฐ็ฎก็ไฝ ็ๅ ณ็ณปใ
ไน่ฎธๅฆๆๆฒกๆๆง็ๆดป๏ผไฝ ไปฌๅฏไปฅๅๆฟ็กใไบๅฎไธ๏ผๅฆๆไฝ ่ดๆ ๅพ่ตท๏ผๆฅๆไธคไธชไธๅ็ไฝๅคไนไธ้ใ
ไฝ ้่ฆๆณๅๆณๅๅผไธๆฎตๆถ้ดใ่ฆๆๅๆใๆฅๆๅ่ช็ฌ็ซ็็คพไบค็ๆดปๅ็ฑๅฅฝใ
ไฝไฝ ๅฏ่ฝไผ้ฎ๏ผ้ฃๅ ป่ฒๅญฉๅญ็ๆถๅๆไนๅ๏ผ็ถๆฏๅๆน้ฝ้่ฆๅจ่บซ่พน๏ผ่ฟๅ ไนไธๅฏ่ฝใ
ๆฒก้ใๅฏๆ็ๆฏ๏ผๆ็ฎๅๅฏน่ฟ็งๆ ๅตๆฒกๆๅฎ็พ็็ญๆก๏ผๅ ไธบๆไปๆช็ป่ฟๅฉๆๆ่ฟๅญฉๅญใ
ไฝ่ณๅฐ้่ฟ็่งฃ่ฟๆกๅฎๅพ๏ผไฝ ไผๆ่ฏๅฐ้่ฆ็ๆงๅฎใไฝ ๅฟ ้กป่ชๅทฑๆณๅบๅๆณๆฅ็ฎก็ไฝ ็ปไบๅฆปๅญ็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ็้ใ
ไฝ ่งๅพไธบไปไนๆ ๆงๅฉๅงปๅฆๆญคๆฎ้๏ผ
ๅฆๅค๏ผๅฆๆไธไธชๅฅณไบบ่กไธบไธ็ซฏๆๅ่พๆฐ๏ผไฝไธบ็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ๆ่ฎธๅฏไปฅ่ฏไผฐไธไธ่ชๅทฑๆฏๅฆ็ปไบไบๅฅน่ฟๅค็้ๆงๆณจๆๅใๅฆๆๆฏ๏ผ่่ๆๆถๆถๅๅ ณๆณจ๏ผ็็ๆ ๅตๆฏๅฆไผๆนๅใ
ๅฆๆไฝ ๅณๅฎๅจๅฅน่กไธบไธ็ซฏๆถ็ปไบๆดๅคๅ ณๆณจ๏ผ่ฆๆ่ฏๅฐไฝ ๅฎ้ ไธๆฏๅจๅฅๅฑไธ่ฏ่กไธบใ่ฟๆๅณ็ๅฐๆฅๅฅนๅฆๆๆณ่ทๅพไฝ ็ๅ ณๆณจ๏ผไผๅๆฌก่กจ็ฐไธไฝณใๅชๆฏๆๅบๆฅไพไฝ ๅ่ใ
้กบไพฟ่ฏดไธๅฅ๏ผๅณไฝฟๆฏๅฏนๅฅณไบบๅๆใๆ้ซๅ้จ๏ผไนๆฏไธ็งๅ ณๆณจๅฝขๅผใๅฎๅพๅฐ่ฝ่ฎฉๆ ๅตๅฅฝ่ฝฌใ
ๅบๆฌไธ๏ผๅฐฑๅๅฅณไบบ็จๅๆญขๆงๆฅ่ทๅพๅ ณ็ณปไธญ็ leverage ไธๆ ท๏ผไฝไธบ็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ้่ฆ่ฝๅคๆคๅ้ๆงๆณจๆๅๆฅ่ทๅพไฝ ็ leverage๏ผๆ่ ่ณๅฐๅนณ่กกไธไธๆธธๆๅฑ้ขใ
Leverage๏ผๅ ณ็ณปไธๅบ่ฏฅๅปบ็ซๅจไฟกไปปๅ็ฑไธๅ๏ผๅฆๆไฝ ็ธไฟก่ฟไธช๏ผ้ฃไฝ ่ฏป้ๅๅฎขไบใๆๆ็ๆฏไปไนๆฏๆๆ็๏ผ่ไธๆฏๅฅฝ่ฑๅๅผ็ๆตชๆผซใไฝไธบไธไธช็ทไบบ๏ผๅฆๆไฝ ๆไบๆ ๅๅฏนไบ๏ผไฝ ็ๅฅณไบบไผ็ฑไฝ ใไฟกไปปไฝ ๏ผๅนถๅจไฝ ่บซ่พนๆๅฐๅฎๅ จใ
ๆไธๅฐ้จๅๅฅณๆง๏ผๅณไฝฟไฝ ๅๅพไธๅฏน๏ผ็ปไบๅฅนไปฌๅคง้ๅ ณๆณจ๏ผๅฅนไปฌไป็ถไผไฟๆๆธฉๆใๅฅณๆงๅ๏ผๅนถๅจๆงๆน้ขไฟๆๆ ทๆ จใ
ๆไธ็ฅ้่ฟๆ ท็ๅฅณๆงๆๅคๅฐ๏ผไฝๆๆณๅฏ่ฝไธๅฐๆๆๅฅณๆง็ 5%ใๆ ่ฎบๅฆไฝ๏ผไฝไธบ็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ๆ่ดฃไปปๆ็บฆไผๅฝไฝไธ้กนๆ่ฝๆฅๅญฆไน ๏ผไปฅไพฟ่ฝๅฆฅๅๅค็ไฝ ็ๅ ณ็ณปใ
ๆฏ็ซ๏ผไธๆฏๆๆ็ทไบบ้ฝ่ฝ้ๅฐ้ฃ 5% ็ๅฅณๆงใๆไปฅๆๅฅฝๆๆธ ๆฅ่ฟไธ็น๏ผๅนถๅๅฅฝๅฟ็ๅๅค๏ผๅคงๅคๆฐๆถๅไฝ ๆไบค้็ๆฏ้ฃ 95% ็ๅฅณๆงใ
็ฎ่่จไน๏ผๅฉๅงปๆฏ็คพไผๅ้ ็ไธ็ง็ปๆ๏ผๅฎ็กฎไฟๅฅณๆง่ทๅพ่ฟๅค็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผ่็ทๆง่ทๅพ่ฟๅฐ็ๆงๆณจๆๅใ
ไบบไปฌ่ฟๅฅๆชไธบไปไน็ฆปๅฉ็้ๅนดไธๅใ
ๆฎ่ฏดๅฉๅงปไฟ่ฟ็ทๅฅณๅนณ็ญ๏ผไฝๅฎ้ ไธๅฎๅชๆฏๅถ้ ไบๆดๅค็ไธๅนณ็ญใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏๆฎ้ ท็ไบๅฎใ
ๆณไธๆณใๅจๅฉๅงปไธญ๏ผ็ทไบบๅช่ฝไปๅฆปๅญ้ฃ้่ทๅพๆงๆณจๆๅใๅฅนๅบๆฌไธๆๆกไบๆๆ็ leverage๏ผๅ ไธบ้่ฟ็ปๅฉ๏ผ็ทไบบๆๆปก่ถณไปๆง้ๆฑ็ๅฏไธ้ฅๅไบค็ปไบๅฅนใ
ไฝๅฅณไบบไธไป ่ฝไปไธๅคซ้ฃ้่ทๅพ้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผ่ฟ่ฝไปๆๅใๅฎถไบบใ็คพไบคๅชไฝใๅ ถไป็ทไบบ้ฃ้่ทๅพใ
็ฑไบๆไปฌๆปก่ถณ็็ฉๅญฆ้ๆฑ็ๆนๅผไธๅ๏ผ็ทๆงๅๅฅณๆงๆฐธ่ฟๆ ๆณ็ๆญฃๅนณ็ญ๏ผๆ ่ฎบ็คพไผๅไบๅคไนๆณๅ่ฏไฝ ่ฟๆฏๅฏ่ฝ็ใ้ฝๆฏ่ฐ่จใไธ่ฆๆตช่ดนๆถ้ด็ธไฟกๅฎใ
็่ฎบไธ๏ผๅฆๆๅฉๅงป็ๆญฃๅนณ็ญ๏ผ้ฃไนๅฅณไบบๅฐ่ขซ้ๅถไธบๅช่ฝไปไธๅคซ้ฃ้่ทๅพ้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผๅซๆ ๆฅๆบใ
่ฟๅฐฑๆฏไธบไปไนๅจๆไบๆๅไธญ๏ผๅฅณๆง่ขซ้ผๅฑ็ฉฟ็็ซฏๅบๆ้ฎ็่ตทๆฅใ
ๆไปฅๅๅจ็ฝไธ็่ฟไธไธช่ง้ข๏ผไธไธชๅฅณๆงๅจๆญๅฎขไธญ่ฏด๏ผๅฅนๅจๅไธไธช็ทไบบ็กฎๅฎไธๅฑๅ ณ็ณปๅ๏ผไธปๅจๅ ้คไบๅฅน็ Instagramใ่ฟ่ฎฉๆๆบๆ่ฎถ็๏ผๆๅๅฅน่ดๆฌ๏ผๅ ไธบๅฅนไปฅ่ฟ็งๆนๅผๅฐ้ๅฅน็็ทไบบใ
ไฝ็ฐๅฎๅฐ็๏ผไปฅ็ฐไปฃ็คพไผ็่ฎพ่ฎกๆนๅผ๏ผๅคงๅคๆฐๅฅณๆงๆฐธ่ฟไธไผ่ขซ้ๅถไธบๅชไปไธๅคซ้ฃ้ๆฅๆถ้ๆงๆณจๆๅใๅ ๆญค๏ผๅฉๅงปๅนถ้็ๆญฃๅนณ็ญ๏ผๅณไฝฟ็บธ้ขไธ็่ตทๆฅๅฆๆญคใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏไบๅฎๅ็ฐๅฎใ
้้ๅง๏ผไผ่ฎกไปฌใๅฉๅงปๅฎๅ จๅๅๅฅณๆงใๆไธๆฏ่ฏดไธ่ฆ็ปๅฉ๏ผไฝ่ณๅฐๅฆๆไฝ ้ๆฉ็ปๅฉ๏ผไฝ ่ฆ็ฅ้ไฝ ็็็ญพ็ๆฏไปไนๅ่ฎฎใ่ฆ็ๅคง็ผ็๏ผไธ่ฆๆ ็ฅใ
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ๅฎๅพ็ไพๅค
ๆๅฐๆฎๆผ่ชๅทฑ็้ญ้ฌผไปฃ่จไบบ๏ผ่ฐ่ฐๆ่ง่ฟ็ๅนถไธ้ตๅพช่ฟๆกๅฎๅพ็ๆ ไพฃใ
YouTube ไธๆไธๅฏนๆ ไพฃๅซ Jack ๅ Meghanใไปไปฌๅคง้จๅๆถ้ด้ฝๅจไธ่ตท๏ผๅ ณ็ณป้ๅธธๅนธ็ฆใ
่ฟๆๅณ็ไป็กฎๅฎ็ปไบๅฅนๆ็ปญ็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผ่ๅฅนไป็ถๅฏนไปๆทฑๆทฑ็่ฟทใไธบไปไน๏ผ
ๆ็็่งฃๆฏ๏ผไป่ฝๅค้่ฟ่ฎฉๅฅนๅ็ฌใ่ฎฉๅฅนไธ็ดๆๅๅฐๅ็งๆ ็ปชๆฅๆๆๅฐ่ฐๅจๅฅน็ๆ ็ปชใ
ไธไธช็ทไบบ่ฝๅค่ฝปๆๅฐ่ฐๅจๅฅณไบบ็ๆ ็ปช๏ผๆฏไธ็ง้ๅธธๆ็ทๅญๆฐๆฆ็็น่ดจใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏไธบไปไนๅฐฝ็ฎกไป็ปไบๅฅนๆ็ปญ็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผ่ฟๅฏนๆ ไพฃไป็ถ่ฝ็ธๅคๅพๅพๅฅฝใ
ไฝ่ฟๆฏไธไธช้ๅธธ็ฝ่ง็็นไพใๅจๅคงๅคๆฐๆ ๅตไธ๏ผๅคงๅคๆฐ็ทไบบไธๅ ทๅค่ฟ็ง้ๆถ่ฐๅจๅฅณๆงๆ ็ปช็ๆ่ฝใไบๅฎไธ๏ผๅคงๅคๆฐ็ทไบบๅชไผ่ฎฉๅฅณไบบ่งๅพๅไปไปฌๅจไธ่ตทๅพๆ ่ใ
ๆไปฅๆ็ๅปบ่ฎฎๆฏ๏ผๅฎๆฟไฟๅฎไธ็น๏ผ้ๅถไฝ ๆณจๆๅ็ไพๅบ๏ผๅ ไธบไฝ ๅพๅฏ่ฝๅคฉ็ๅฐฑไธๅ Jack ้ฃๆ ท๏ผ่ฝไธ็ด่ฐๅจไปไผดไพฃ็ๆ ็ปชใ
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ๆๅๅบ
ๆข็ถ่ๅฐ่ฟไธช่ฏ้ข๏ผไฝ ไปฌ็็ๆ็ฝไปไนๆฏ"ๆๅๅบ"ๅ๏ผๅฝไธไธชๅฅณไบบๆไธไธช็ทไบบๅฝๅ ฅๆๅๅบๆถ๏ผ่ฟๅบๆฌไธๆฏๅฅน็กฎไฟไป้ฃไธช็ทไบบ้ฃ้่ทๅพๆ็ปญใๆ ้็้ๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผๅๆถไธไปๅบไปปไฝๆงๅๆฅ็ๆนๅผใ
ๆไปฅ๏ผๅฆๆไฝ ๆฏไธไธช็ทไบบ๏ผไฝ ๆๅ ด่ถฃ็ๅฅณไบบ่ฏด"ๆไปฌๅๆๅๅง"๏ผๆญฃ็กฎ็ๅ็ญๅบ่ฏฅๆฏ"ไธ็จไบ๏ผ่ฐข่ฐข๏ผๆๆๅๅคไบ"ใไธ่ฆๆไฝ ๅฎ่ดต็ๆถ้ดๅๆณจๆๅๆตช่ดนๅจ่ฟๆ ท็ๅฅณไบบ่บซไธ๏ผ็ปง็ปญๆพไธไธไธชใ
ๆไปฅๅไนๆ่ฟๅฅณไบบๆณๆๆๆพๅ ฅๆๅๅบใ่ฟๅบๆฌไธๆๅณ็ๆๅฝๆถๆฒกๆๅฑ็ฐๅบ่ถณๅค็็ทๆง็น่ดจ่ฎฉๅฅนๅฏนๆไบง็ๆงๅธๅผๅใๆไปฅ่ฟๆฏ็ป้ชไน่ฐใๆฏ็๏ผๆๆ็ปไบๅๆๅ็ๆ่ฎฎ๏ผๅพๅฟซๅฐฑ็ฆปๅผไบๅฅนไปฌใ
ๅฅนๆๅบๅๆๅๅฏ่ฝๆฌๆๅนถ้ไพฎ่พฑไฝ ๏ผไฝๅฝไฝ ็่งฃไบ็ทๅฅณ็บฆไผๅจๆๅ๏ผ่ฟๅฎ้ ไธๅฐฑๆฏๅฎ็ๆฌ่ดจใๅฅณไบบ่ชๅทฑ้ฝไธๆ็ฝๅฅนไปฌไธบไปไนๅๆไบไบ๏ผไนไธๆ็ฝ่ชๅทฑ็ๅธๅผๅ่งฆๅๅจๆฏๅฆไฝๅทฅไฝ็ใ
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ๆงๅบ
ๅ่ฟๆฅๅข๏ผๅฝไธไธช็ทไบบๆ็ป็ปๅฅณไบบไธๆฎตๅ ณ็ณป๏ผๅชๆฟๆไธๆถๅๅฅนๅ็ๆงๅ ณ็ณปๆถ๏ผ่ฟไธช็ทไบบๅบๆฌไธๅฐฑๆฏๆๅฅนๆพ่ฟไบ"ๆงๅบ"ใ
ๅฅณไบบ้ๅธธ็งฐ่ฟไบ็ทไบบไธบ"็ฉๅฎถ"๏ผๆฏๅฅนๆ ๆณ lock down ็ไบบใ
่ฟๆๅณ็ๅฅน็ปไบไปๆงๆณจๆๅ๏ผ่ไป็ปไบๅฅนๅพๅฐๆๅ ไนๆฒกๆ้ๆงๆณจๆๅใ
ๆๆณไฝ ไปฌๅพๅคไบบๅฌ่ฏด่ฟ"ๆๅๅบ"๏ผไฝๆฒกๅฌ่ฏด่ฟ"ๆงๅบ"ใๅ ฌๅนณๅฐ่ฏด๏ผๆๅๅบ็กฎๅฎๆดๅธธ่งใ
่ฟไนไธๅฎๅ จ็ญๅไบ็ฎๅๆๆงไผไผดๅ ณ็ณปใๅ ไธบๅจ็บฏ็ฒน็็ฎๅๅ ณ็ณปไธญ๏ผๅๆน้ฝไธๆฏๅจๅฏปๆพไธๆฎตๅ ณ็ณปใๅฐฝ็ฎก้ๅธธๆปๆไธๆนๆ็ปไผไบง็ๆๆ ใ
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็ฅๅฃ็้ ็ฉ
ๆๅไฟก็ทไบบๆ่ฝๅๅผๆๅฅณไบบใๅฐฝ็ฎก็ฐๅฎไธญๅๅฐ็ไบบไธๅคใ
ๆป็ๆฅ่ฏด๏ผๅฅณไบบๆ ๆณๅๆ่ฟๆ ทๆธ ๆฐใ็ฎๆดใๆ้ป่พๅฐ่งฃ้ๆธ ๆฅๅฅนไปฌ่ชๅทฑ็ๅธๅผๅ่งฆๅๅจใๆไปฅไธ่ฆๆๆๅฅณไบบๅ่ฏไฝ ๅฅนไปฌๆฏๆไน่ฟไฝ็ใ
ไธๅธ็ปไบๅฅณๆง็พ่ฒๆฅๅธๅผ็ทไบบใๅ่ฟๆฅ๏ผไธๅธไน็ปไบ็ทๆง masculine ็ๆบๆ งๅๅๆ ผๆฅๅผๆๅนถๅธๅผๅฅณไบบใ
่ฟๅฐฑๆฏๆ็็ๅฎไฟกๅฟตใๅชๆฏๆ ็ฅๅ้่ฏฏ็็คพไผๅไบ้ปๆญขไบ็ทไบบ็่งฃๅฆไฝๅฏนๅฅณไบบๅ ทๆๅธๅผๅใ
ไฝ่ฟไธๅๅพๅฟซๅฐฑไผๆนๅใ่งฃ้ๅฅณๆงๆฌๆง็งๅฏ็ไปฃ็ ๏ผ็ปๅฐ่ขซๅ จ้ขๆญ็คบใ่ๅฎๅฐ็ฑๅๆ่ฟๆ ท็็ทไบบไผ ้ๅบๆฅใไธๆฌกไธ็ฏๆ็ซ ใไธๆฌกไธไธชๆฆๅฟตใไธไธชๆฅไธไธช็ๆฝ่ฑกๆฆๅฟตใ็ดๅฐๅฎๆด็ๅพๆฏไปฅๅฎๆๆ็่ฃ่่ขซๆญๅผใ
ๅฐ็ฎๅไธบๆญข๏ผๆๅช็ฅ่งไบไธๅธๅ้ ็ๅฅณๆงๆฌๆงไปฃ็ ็ไธๅฐ้จๅ๏ผไฝๆๅทฒ็ปๅฏนๅ ถ็ฒพ็พ็ๅคๆๆงๆๅฐๆฌ็ใๅคช็ฅๅฅไบใไธๅธๆฏ่ถ ่ถๅคฉๆ็ๅญๅจใๅฎๆฏ่บๆฏไธ็งๅญฆ็็ปๅใ
ๆ็่ณไธไฟกๆ๏ผไฝ็ๅฐ่ฟๆ ท็ไปฃ็ ๏ผๆๆไบไฟกๅพใ่ฟๆฏไธ็งๆๅ่ถ ่ถไบบ็ฑป็่งฃ็ๆ็งๅญๅจๆๆไฝๅญๅจ็ๅคฉๆๆฐดๅนณใ
ๅคงๅคๆฐ็ทไบบๆฐธ่ฟไธไผๅๆ่ฟๆ ทๆฌฃ่ตๅฅณๆงๆฌๆงใๆ็ๅพ ๅฎ็็ๅฎ้ข็ฎ๏ผ่ไธๆฏ็คพไผๆ็ธไฟก็ๆ ทๅญใๆ็ๅฐ็ทไบบไปฌ constantly ๆฑๆจๅฅณไบบๆๅคๅคๆใ่ฟ่ฎฉๆๆๅฐ้ๅธธๆฒๅใ็ธไฟกๆ๏ผไบๆ ไธไธๅฎๆฏ้ฃๆ ท็ใ
ไน่ฎธๆไธๅคฉ๏ผไฝ ไน่ฝ็ๅฐๆๆ็ๅฐ็็พใ